While we have seen a variety of questions and issues that we consider important to address when choosing a wedding officiant, the following is a list that we have put together, with the order of them being somewhat important:
After speaking with the officiant (a must), does the officiant make you comfortable? Does she/he seem genuinely interested in you as a couple? (If your answer to either of these questions is NO, then the following questions are moot.
- What makes the officiant qualified to celebrate weddings?
- Is the officiant available on your wedding date?
- Is the officiant available for a ceremony rehearsal?
-Is the officiant willing travel to your chosen wedding site?
-Is the officiant willing to meet with the two of you before you hire them as an officiant?
-Does the officiant require pre-marital counseling?
- How long has the officiant been performing weddings? Why does she/he do them?
-Does the officiant charge a standard fee? What does the fee include?
-What happens if something emergent were to come up and the officiant is unable to be at your wedding?
-Will the officiant let you personalize ceremony details such as music, readings, and vows? Can you include other religious or non-religious elements if desired?
-Does the officiant have sample wording/ceremonies/readings to show you?
-Would the officiant (and his/her spouse) like to come to the reception and rehearsal dinner? (Not all couples choose to invite the officiant, and not all officiants make it a practice of attending dinners when invited).
Choosing a Wedding Minister or Officiant